Last week, the custody battle between Grammy-nominated singer, Davido and one of his babymamas who is a fashion influencer and philanthropist, Sophia Momodu was a major internet storm. Many netizens were divided over the issue even as the court ruled in favour of Sophia Momodu. What really made this episode of interest is that both parties had been at each other’s neck since the child was still a baby. However, they managed to get along for a few years before troubles began again.
Davido is just one of many who have to live a life with Babymama drama. To avoid this stressful way of life, here are some of the reasons why Babymama drama persists in relationships.
Favouritism
One of the leading causes of Babymama drama is favouritism. If the man is married with children and the children from outside wedlock are given secondary attention, this may cause a lot of pain for the babymama.
Custody
When the babymama is concerned about the safety of her child at his or her father’s place, then custody battle may ensue. It is often better to settle it by initiating a sit-down than to end up in court.
Lack of Financial Support
Most babymamas get wild when they have to fend for their child alone without adequate financial support. Every child needs a father not just a sp£rm donor.
Absenteeism
When the father is absent at major events in the life of the child, it may result in babymama drama. Many desire a good life for their children regardless of being born out of wedlock. It’s disheartening when a child is constantly given a reminder that he or she was conceived by mistake.
Toxic Game
When a Babymama knows how to get under your skin to annoy you for entertainment purpose, then you are done for. She will make your life a living hell. Don’t let her know your weakness.
Infidelity
If a man is still having a sexual relationship with his babymama, that is a recipe for disaster. This relationship will often leave the babymama used and unwanted every time the man posts the picture of his perfect family on social media.
Threats
When the father keeps threatening a babymama, the drama will be unending. It is important to avoid conflicts that would degenerate into threats. Instead, many Africans resort to applying native intelligence by seeking counsel from mature family members or a trusted and respectable mutual friend.
High Expectations
When the babymama expects too much from the father of her child, this can cause some feud. It’s best to be realistic- the man will always see you as one who came into his life when he was not ready to be a father.
Poor Communication
Every babymama needs to learn the art of communication: what to say, how to say it and when to say it. The tone of voice must communicate respect to the father of the child regardless of how you feel about the man. The guiding principle for engagement should be peace for the sake of the child.
Relocation
Many people are having crisis with immigration due to custody rights. Babymamas often have a hard time proving to the home office in their countries that they have legal rights to travel to another country with their child. If the father of the child does not have an active visa to the country where the babymama is going with the child, then it can be an issue.
